Loving and accepting ourselves on Mother’s Day!

“Your kids don’t need a perfect mom! They need a happy one!”

I came across this quote a few months back and I loved it. Isn’t it true that our kids are not expecting us to be perfect? It is always the moms who put so much pressure on themselves thinking that they need to be perfect all the time. When it comes to happiness, kids can immediately pick up the energy even if they don’t verbally express how their mom is feeling. Kids would do anything to make their mom feel better.

Growing up in India, we never celebrated Mother’s Day. I think it’s an honor for every mom to celebrate motherhood and womanhood once a year on this special day. A day for her to acknowledge the beauty (both inner and outer) in her. My mom passed away twelve years ago and I really wish I had told her a lot of things that I know now. First of all, I would have taught her this beautiful technique of tapping. I would have told her that she was born brilliant and that there is greatness within her and she doesn’t need any validation or approval from anyone. I would have also told her that she doesn’t have to please anyone. The only person from whom she can get validation and approval is herself. And, the only person that she has to please is herself.

This Mother’s Day, I invite you to consider putting yourself first and asking the following questions:

What do I think?

What do I feel?

What do I need?

When you answer these questions, think about giving that to yourself, rather than waiting for someone else to give it to you. If one of your answers was love, start your day by practicing self love.

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”– Louise Hay

Personally, for me, Mother’s Day brings up a lot of emotions, so I always turn to tapping. If you are like me, I encourage you to tap and acknowledge whatever is coming up for you.

As I get older, I realize that I was once a child before I became a mother. Every mother was once a child before she became a mother. So, nurture her, send love and kindness to the child that is within you and give her a hug and let her know that she was always awesome and the greatness in her was always shining bright.

When we practice accepting and loving ourselves, we will be teaching our kids also to practice the same. There will always be some parts of us, we may never be able to accept and then there are some parts of us that we want to acknowledge, but never take the time. Today, is a great day to get into a self- inquiry process and make a list of things that you love and acknowledge about yourself.

I’m yet to meet a mother who has not felt guilty for not doing enough for her children and family. This Mother’s day, I encourage each and every one of you to take an inventory of all the times you did the best for your children and family. Going forward, every time you feel I should have known better, I should have done better, give yourself permission to acknowledge, “ I did the best I could with all the resources that were available to me at that time.”

Cheers to all the mothers across the globe!  Let’s shine our light bright, stand in our power (Shakthi) by being the force for good, and continue to use our voice to speak our truth!

And, remember our kids do not need a perfect mom, they need a happy one!

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