Whenever I teach a class or workshop, or when I’m done working with a client, they always say this has been a great learning and tapping experience. But, they also ask me if I could give them the exact words to tap for their problem, and I would see them getting ready to write it in their journal.
That is when I always tell them to use the basic recipe for any problem or issue that needs healing. For example, we start tapping on the side of the hand or karate chop, saying the set up statement three times. The set up statement goes like this: “Even though I have this problem (imagine this problem in a box), I accept myself.”
This problem can be replaced with this headache or worry about paying my bills or insomnia or any other issue that is bothering you in that moment.
Then, we go around the points, tapping and naming the problem. Just by doing this for 3 to 5 rounds can be very helpful in taking the edge off of the problem that you want to address using tapping. So, instead of getting too caught up on saying the words and statements correctly, you can just get started by voicing your problem and the emotions that go along with it. Even thinking about the problem (without saying the words) and tapping can also release the stuck emotional energy and provide some relief.
Why is EFT a client based approach?
When you work with an EFT Practitioner, they hold you in a healing space with an intention of helping you to find your core issues which is a key component in the healing process. Even with a practitioner facilitating the healing process, the client is always in charge, because your subconscious mind will always try to keep you safe and will never take you to a place that you are not ready to heal.
When a client makes breakthroughs during a session, it is only because the client has given them permission to get to that place through the power of tapping. To emphasize this point, I want to say that it is always true because the practitioner always uses the words of the client. They parrot phrase the client’s words and not paraphrase it at any moment.
I often hear from clients that they are not getting the same results when they work on their own. The difference is because, you are held in an energetic space by the practitioner where you are being heard without judgment and the tapping process is facilitated. So, you ultimately get out of your own way and be able to let tapping do the healing work for you.
The beauty of tapping is you don’t have to know anything when you start tapping. All you need to do is just trust the process and let the tapping lead you through the healing journey.
If you still feel that you are getting stuck with tapping, just write down all your emotions, feelings, and bodily sensations (if any), and really do some ranting, and a brain dump in a journal. After you are done doing that, just tap using the words that you have written in your journal or a document on your computer. It also gives you an opportunity to go back and check the intensity of the issue after tapping a few rounds.
I invite you to consider the idea of just getting started with tapping with an intention of healing yourself at all levels.