Author: MRamesh

Take your time healing, as long as you want. Nobody else knows what you’ve been through. How could they know how long it will take to heal you?– Abertoli

If you want to know what your mind was like in the past, all you have to do is examine your body now, and if you want to know what your body will look like in the future, then examine your mind now, because those two are inseparably one. – Deepak Chopra

This week I choose to write about how focusing on our emotional health can help us improve our physical health. Before I do that, I want to share my little win of being able to do a Facebook live video for 21 days in my closed Facebook group ”EFT Tapping for autism parents”. April is autism awareness month and making these videos and sharing tapping is my way of giving back to this community which is near and dear to my heart.

You can access all the videos by clicking on the link below:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgm8_4b3g4u5ARjvYqTuBBQ

While in many parts of the world, we are still dealing with the coronavirus, my heart goes out to those families who lost their loved ones, their friends, family members or someone very close in their neighborhood or community. I’m also really proud of the folks who are trying to do the best they can by donating, organizing, and collecting funds and resources to extend help to those who are really in need during these uncertain and difficult times. Praying, tapping and meditating as we set intentions for the planet to get through the pandemic is something all of us can do to shift the energy from panic and despair to peace and hope.

Moving on to looking into our emotions when we are experiencing an illness, I would like to share about New York Times best- selling author, Kris Carr, who is a stage four cancer survivor. Kris mentioned in her interview during the Tapping World Summit that even though she addressed the cancer through modifying her diet and making changes in her lifestyle, working on her emotions by adding a tool like tapping to her routine helps her to stay calm and relaxed as she continues her healing journey. When we allow our emotional blocks to melt, we may be led to infinite possibilities, opportunities and miracles of health and healing.

Here are some tips to get started with your tapping practice if you are experiencing health issues:

1. The first and foremost thing you need to be doing is making sure you consult a medical doctor or a qualified healthcare professional to treat your issue. EFT Tapping is not a replacement for any medical treatment.
2. When you choose to tap on your own, you can ask yourself the following questions:
   1. What is my primary emotion about this health issue/illness?
   2. When did this issue begin?
   3. What was going on in my life at that time? (any significant changes, events, or memories)
   4. What is my biggest disempowering belief when I think about this illness?
   5. How can I reframe this to an empowering belief?
   6. What is this issue trying to teach/tell me?

Answers to all the above questions can become your tapping targets as you begin your healing journey.

Wishing you peace and happiness!

Until next time, keep tapping!

Meenakshi.

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.– Mahatma Gandhi

Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, because you deserve peace. – Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Forgiveness is the best form of love. It takes a strong person to say sorry and even stronger person to forgive. – Anonymous

This week I choose to write about forgiveness, a topic that I have discussed with friends and family very often. I was inspired to write about forgiveness, after listening to Scarlett Lewis at the Tapping World Summit. Some of you may remember the mass shooting at Sandy Hook school, New Town, Connecticut. Scarlett Lewis lost her son at the shooting. To say that I was moved and touched listening to her journey into forgiveness, choosing to forgive the perpetrator would be an understatement.

Lewis shared about how the team from Tapping Solution helped the families process the trauma and grief, who lost their precious loved little ones in the shooting.

Ever since I listened to her interview, I have been taking an inventory of how I have been a recipient of forgiveness throughout my life starting with my parents and The Divine. Going back to the interview, I realized if Ms. Lewis can forgive someone who took her son’s life, forgiveness should be an easy and effortless process.  She went on to start a non profit called The Forgiveness Project.

Here are some things to consider in the process of forgiveness:

1. When we think about forgiving someone, we can experience an unconscious resistance, because we are so afraid, that if we forgive, we will be letting the person off the hook. The same applies when we want to forgive ourselves.
2. The resistance to forgiveness is also because of unprocessed guilt, anger, hurts, wounds, and resentment.
3. When we begin to address those dark emotions using a tool like tapping, forgiveness becomes easy and effortless.
4. A shift in perspective, which is a very common phenomenon experienced after tapping can also lead to forgiveness.
5. Forgiving too soon when we are not ready, will only delay the process of achieving a closure to our past experiences.
6. Surrendering to a power greater than us, and asking for guidance and support is the key to making a transition into forgiveness.

Wishing you peace and happiness!

Until next time, keep tapping.

Meenakshi.

The five stages of grief model (or the Kübler-Ross model) postulates that those experiencing grief go through a series of five emotions: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

I first heard about these five stages from Dr. Damon Silas during the Tapping World Summit in 2019. I thought it was so profound and I felt that one can go through these stages when faced with any struggle or challenge in their life.

Kübler-Ross now notes that these stages are not linear and some people may not experience any of them. Yet and still, others might only undergo two stages rather than all five, one stage, three stages, etc.  It is now more readily known that these five stages of grief are the most commonly observed experienced by the grieving population.

This week I choose to write about grief and how tapping is a tool that can help us soften this emotion. We often relate the word “grief” to the loss or death of a loved one, which can cause extreme pain to the entire family and in some cases the community. Grief is also experienced every time we experience a sense of loss and hope, when we lose a home, a job, money, power, etc. Grief is also experienced when something ends like a relationship.

I’m called to write about grief this week mainly because of working and talking to a few of my clients going through grief. When we use tapping to address our grief issues, our goal is never to neutralize the intensity of the emotion and bring it to a zero. Our goal is always making sure we feel safe feeling the emotions as we grieve through the loss. Sadness and fear are two primary emotions often experienced when we work through grief.

When you begin tapping for grief, always tune into your body and notice where you feel the emotion, along with the sensations (like heaviness, stiffness, tightness, etc.) Dr. Joe Dispenza says that “ Our body is our unconscious mind”. Our bodies hold all the memories and unprocessed emotions for a long time and can eventually show up as pain, and other health issues.  Through tapping we are only creating a safe environment to process the grief, as each one of us process our emotions in different ways. Allowing ourselves to take the time to work through the grief is the most important step in healing this emotion.

Wishing you peace and happiness!

Until next time, keep tapping!

Meenakshi.

You can’t calm the storm…. So stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass.– Timber Hawkeye

Overwhelm happens when you think that you need to figure out everything all at once. Truth? You don’t.

This week I choose to write about my experience listening to the Tapping World Summit. I have been listening to the Summit over the past several years and I really enjoy this time listening to experts and tapping along with them. It was an amazing tapping retreat for ten days, as I went deep within to move energy, and experience peace and calm. I also realized that I have access to this resourceful state all the time and it all starts with acknowledging the overwhelm and stress that my mind and body may be experiencing in that moment.

Author, speaker, and coach, Cheryl Richardson was one of the experts in the summit. She said, “The more overwhelmed we are, the less resourceful we become.” All of us know this at a conscious level, but when we are in a state of overwhelm, we get caught up in our head and tapping gently brings us back to our bodies and helps ground ourselves in the here and now.

Cheryl also shared one of her tapping set up statements given by one of her coaches. “Even though my mind is manufacturing anxiety, I’m open to the possibility of my mind manufacturing peace”.

As we move into a new week, let’s set an intention for our minds to manufacture peace.

Wishing you peace and happiness!

Until next time, keep tapping!

Meenakshi.

When we learn how to become resilient, we learn how to embrace the beautifully broad spectrum of the human experience. – Jaeda Dewalt

It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the ones most resilient and responsive to change. – Charles Darwin

This week I choose to write about how tapping can help one go beyond just stress relief. Emotion (E-motion) is energy in motion. When we begin to shift our energy using tapping on a regular basis, even if it is just for a few minutes a day, we create a space within ourselves. We experience a shift in perspective towards issues that used to be bothersome in the past.

The reason I’m inspired to write about building emotional resilience is because, when I share tapping during classes or workshops, I’m always asked by at least a couple of participants that they want to work on managing their anger. In other words, what they mean is they would like to respond in a calm manner, without reacting to the person or the circumstance.

When we feel angry, we almost find ourselves in a helpless, hopeless, and powerless situation, no matter what the problem that we are handling in that moment. Going back to the idea of creating space within ourselves, we build momentum through tapping, by acknowledging and voicing our anger. This dissipates the intensity of anger, as our nervous system relaxes and we realize that we are not in any real threat or danger. The more we practice this, eventually we will notice that we react less and respond more.

Building emotional resilience is like building a muscle by going to the gym. It takes time, but it is really worth spending sometime tapping to build resilience. This does not mean that we will never get angry at all. Even if we do, the response will not be disproportionate and we can quickly bounce back as tapping deepens our awareness, helping us redirect our emotional response.

I want to invite you to join me on these two free tapping calls that I’m offering on March 3rd, and March 10th from 5 pm to 6 pm PST. Please click on the link below to register.

https://www.tapyourwaytohealing.com/self-love/

Wishing you peace and happiness!

Until next time, keep tapping!

Meenakshi.